"...a powerful explanation of suicide..."


#1

A friend whose son committed suicide posted this on Facebook… I know we all can not understand another’s reasoning, but for those of us who have never fought the desire to end our lives - this is an interesting and sad perspective.

David Foster Wallace has the most powerful explanation of suicide…“The so-called ‘psychotically depressed’ person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of quote ‘hopelessness’ or any abstract conviction that life’s assets and debits do not square. And surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom Its invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise. Make no mistake about people who leap from burning windows. Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me standing speculatively at the same window just checking out the view; i.e. the fear of falling remains a constant. The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s flames: when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors. It’s not desiring the fall; it’s terror of the flames. And yet nobody down on the sidewalk, looking up and yelling ‘Don’t!’ and ‘Hang on!’, can understand the jump. Not really. You’d have to have personally been trapped and felt flames to really understand a terror way beyond falling.”…


#2

Wow. That has opened so much for me…


#3

The people who jumped from the towers on 9/11 remind me of this.


#4

Yes, this is eye opening. I’ve since learned that David Foster Grant did end up killing himself.
I’m seeing so many comments about how selfish suicide is. I guess I also felt that way, but after reading this my outlook has changed. I still wish Chester could have found a way to put out the flames that were chasing him.


#5

A lot of people still feel that suicide is weak and selfish. It doesn’t feel that way to the person doing it at the time that it’s happening. It’s the only “self-care” they can see to do at that moment because they’re not seeing past that moment.